If you are a stressed out & exhausted woman...

I totally get it - because I've been there, too. I've heard it said, "My Mess IS my Message" and dang, did that sure resonate for me! My 'messiness' is what led my transformation from self-abandonment to self-loyalty, and YOU CAN EXPERIENCE THIS, TOO! It's not some secret sauce you don't have access to, you just might require some support along the way learning the recipe.

If you feel irritable, undervalued, disrespected, or overwhelmed because you do so much for others you end up being on autopilot in your own life - it's understandable. I was in that same spot for many years. I over-delivered for others, and under-delivered for myself. I prioritized everyone else in my life ahead of my own wants and needs and was dismayed I felt so depleted. I bought into the BS there was nobility and honor in my sacrifice, without realizing I was betraying myself and actually compromising the things most important to me.

That's not living fully, it's living a slow death. If you're reading this right now, your soul knows there must be something different, too, like mine did.

I'm here to let you know you're on to something - because there IS another way of living and enjoying your life. You do not have to feel exhausted or resentful and try to convince yourself it's 'honorable.'

Using the straightforward tools and knowledge in this course, you can powerfully create the life that feels true to you, a life that invigorates and excites you with hope and connection to others who are doing the same thing!

You're in the right place!

What's included

You'll identify a definition of boundaries that outlines how boundaries are self-respecting limits, not about other people.

You will learn how to use Boundary Circles, types of boundary struggles to understand and strengthen your limit-setting skills.

You will learn strategies like my 4-step model for setting boundaries to gain clarity on exactly how to make an effective boundary limit

What Others Are Saying

I was blown away by how in-depth this information is, yet how simple to apply. The day after completing the course I had an opportunity to recognize my personal limits in a relationship and put this "boundaries" information to use. In the past, as a "recovering people pleaser," I would get stuck in my thinking. I believed I should be the one to extend a proverbial hand. This time, I was able to journal through my values and needs and acknowledge why this boundary was needed so that I could be at my best to serve myself and others. 100% would recommend this course, especially to those rebuilding their lives after fundamentalism or still interacting with those who maintain fundamentalist values.

I was so grateful for this course. Shannan presented this in a way that was both interesting and informative. I definitely had some insightful take-aways and would recommend this for sure!

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE Shannan's take on boundaries - I HAD NO IDEA how much I was just trying to control people & things. Learning how boundaries are really about me, and the MINDFULNESS & THE DRAMA TRIANGLE tools will be A GAME CHANGER! I also love how Shannan clearly talks about why we might struggle, then offers suggestions on what to actually do instead. Super helpful and will def review several times!

What' You'll Learn

Boundaries 101

• Lesson 1: Defining Boundaries, Benefits, Signs of Poor Boundaries
  
• Lesson 2: Myths v. Facts
  
• Lesson 3: When Boundaries Need Adjusting
  

Boundaries 101

• Lesson 1: Intro to Boundary Circles & Questions
  
• Lesson 2: Boundary Struggle Rubric
  
• Lesson 3: Examples of Boundary Statements
  

Boundaries 101

• Lesson 1: Communication Styles: 3 that Hinder, 1 that Helps
  
• Lesson 2: 4 Steps to Making A Boundary, Tips & Strategies
  
• Lesson 3: Bonus Material - Printable & Customizable Boundary Statement Card Deck!
  

Let's get started today!

It has been really helpful learning about some of the different skills and techniques that can be applied to help with boundaries for a variety of scenarios. I will be coming back to this material again and again; practice will be key! I especially liked the pieces about the drama triangle and dialectics. Work was the main impetus for me to take this course, sometimes I still believe boundaries are selfish and I'm working on recognizing that it's okay to not do something if I don't feel that it will be healthy or the best thing for me. I'll review this stuff over and over again! Looking forward to more!

I can't wait to get started togehter

"Boundaries are like Fences & Flashlights. They highlight limits & preserve that which is most important to you."

Shannan Blum, LMFT

Hello!! So ... why take this course from me versus someone else? Well...I'm 56 years old and have been a therapist since 1992. Even as a child, I was highly attuned to the pain and emotions of others around me, and often felt overwhelmed by big feelings having grown up in an alcoholic family system, Even though I was a trauma-trained therapist, I wasn't spared from experiencing a 10-year bout with depression while raising four remarkable children...and don't even get me started on the fact I didn't realize I had anxiety until my Anxiety Treatment Professional training! All that planning, organizational drive and problem-solving skills were because I suffered from deep fears and anxieties.

You can see those patterns in my life way back - I joined the conservative cult of Mormonism, masquerading as a high-demand religion, as a 17yo in order to satisfy my desperate need for what I call my 'Three S's: Stability, Security, and Safety.' Later in life, I realized this was also my motivation for marrying at 21 yo. It damn near consumed me and I felt utterly lost as no amount of 'doing more' or 'trying harder' within that high-control life and marriage helped quell the emptiness, my fears, or my self-abandonment.

Reclaim Wholeness

Through my own therapy and as my children began maturing, I faced deep conflicts of feeling the fraud. I was expecting my ex-husband to provide for me that which only I could do for myself - whole-self acceptance, internal safety, and authenticity. I began attending 12-Step meetings and my life began rapidly changing as I realized the needed amends with myself and those around me. I divorced after 22 years of marriage and 8 years later, left the cult of Mormonism. My divorce signaled the beginning of my 'real adult life', when I was 45, as I began connecting to my true self and wants.

I won't lie, the inner turmoil was gut-wrenching at times. But for the understanding of others on their healing journey, learning about anxiety & strengthening my self-respecting limits, and learning to tolerate my distress - I would still be in that unhealthy life.

I have a passion for helping others heal who are or have been in like circumstances, with similar limiting and blocking beliefs and who might be currently still suffering to some degree. For ten years I worked with eating disorder clients 50 hours/week, and they shaped my life & journey, too, as I watched them heal & reclaim their wellbeing.

Rediscover Self-connection

It's worth noting I do not believe depression, anxiety or even PTSD are "disorders." I believe they are reasonable protective & problem-solving efforts that are no longer effective. Boundaries help us connect to our truest, inner self; the younger version of ourselves who seeks to be validated & seen, the most genuine part part of ourselves who desires joy & hope, who wants to be creative & productive. Boundaries help us rediscover the part of us we abandoned and re-connect to self.

Rebuild Enriched Relationships

Boundaries are self-respecting - and are the foundation of mental wellbeing and developing healthy relationships - trust me on this one! My current husband and I talk often about our path to each other, our path to a better version of ourselves through self-respecting boundaries. I'm proof it's possible, worth it, and wonderful to reclaim, rediscover, and rebuild your enriched life!

Thank you for your trust. It is an honor to be part of your journey. Let's begin this journey together, are you ready?

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I had no idea I was working so hard, doing the very things that were making it harder for me! Learning the key was manage my OWN stuff instead of over-explaining or trying to convince others to do things has been a major lightbulb! "Fences & Flashlights" keeps me on track and focused on myself. I've never felt more hope because I can do small things each day and I'm starting to feel better.

See you on the inside!

FAQ's

QUESTION: About how long will the course take me to complete?

The MasterCourse contains just under 3 hours of video instruction; it also includes action steps for each lesson so it will depend on your personal schedule, and how you like to take information in and apply it, etc. Some people devour the video and guidebook all at once and then replay to review. Others prefer to tackle the video & section of guidebook incrementally. Overall, the time investment to watch the videos and do the activities could be somewhere around 6-8 hours total.

QUESTION: How long to I have access to the videos?

You are able to replay the videos through the links provided for one year from the time of purchase.

QUESTION: What if I have questions about the material?

You are free to DM me on my Instagram or Facebook accounts: @shannanblummft or you can email me at: shannan@sbmftservices.com. Please remember however, that purchasing my services and products does not constitute a therapeutic relationship and I do suggest working with someone local or joining a support group.

QUESTION: How do I get more support once I start working on the action steps in the guidebook?

If you want more guidance about the action steps, I suggest joining the free Facebook Group here. For even more personalized support, I recommend working with a coach or therapist who can help with specific understanding and accountability, as well as a place to practice move through the feelings.

QUESTION: Do you work with clients privately?

Yes, on a limited, case-by-case basis through a Premium Coaching Program: "R3: Re-claiming, Re-discovering and Re-building Wholeness". Currently my prices are discounted while it's still in the beta stage. You can learn more here.

QUESTION: Can I get a refund?

Yes, within 48 hours. If you suddenly determine the purchase the course is not a match for you, you can request a refund.

QUESTION: Do you offer any other courses?

Yes, I do! I have mini-courses addressing Thinking Traps and Religious Trauma as well as another MasterCourse on Religious Trauma & Reconstructing an Enriched Life. I also have a course for therapists who want to learn more about a process-oriented approach to treating anxiety in children & adolescents. You can learn more about all my courses & resources here.